Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Ray Made It!

On New Year's Day, Ray nearly died.

He fell to the ground near his car in a church parking lot. Fortunately, the pastor of the church and a funeral director (of all people quickly stepped in to breath life back into him- literally. One gave him mouth-to-mouth resuscitation and the other pumped his chest. The pair kept Ray alive until paramedics arrived. Ray had to be shocked three times with a defibrillator to get his heart beating again. But it’s still going and Ray has recovered from that near-death experience.

Like Ray, many people in our community are in trouble right outside of our doors. They are hurting emotionally and spiritually. Let’s work together to reach them, so they know there is hope and there is life. We have a choice before us right now as to whether we’ll get involved or sit on the sidelines during 2009.

Will we be the like the religious men, who passed by the beaten man on the other side of the road, trying to avoid the whole situation? Or will we follow the lead of the Good Samaritan and become the instrument of God in someone’s life?

It’s not about large, extravagant gestures. Just average people, making a difference in small ways as opportunities present themselves.

Stephen Goforth

Bringing Attitude

A healthy attitude is contagious but don't wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.

Monday, December 29, 2008

Building the World She Wants

How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.
Anais Nin

It is True or False?

One of the great difficulties is to keep before the audience’s mind the question of Truth. They always think you you are recommending Christianity not because it is true but because it is good. And in the discussion they will at every moment try to escape from the issue “True – or False” into stuff about a good society, or morals, or the incomes of Bishops, or the Spanish Inquisition, or France, or Poland – or anything whatever. You have to keep forcing them back, and again back, to the real point. Only thus will you be able to undermine their belief that a certain amount of ‘religion’ is desirable but one mustn’t carry it too far. One must keep on pointing out that Christianity is a statement which, if false, is of no importance, and if true, of infinite importance. The one thing it cannot be is moderately important.

CS Lewis
God in the Dock

Friday, December 26, 2008

Mistakes and Discoveries

He who never made a mistake never made a discovery.
Samuel Smiles

Monday, December 22, 2008

Darkness

Darkness was cheap and Scrooge liked it.
Charles Dickens

Friday, December 19, 2008

Happiness Depends..

Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them.
Leo Tolstoy

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Spending your Life

The greatest use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.
William James

Monday, December 15, 2008

Mistakes and Fear

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
Elbert Hubbard

Friday, December 12, 2008

The great thing in this world is not so much where we are, but in what direction we are moving.
Oliver Wendell Holmes

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Failure is Success

Failure is success if we learn from it.
Malcolm Forbes

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Getting Older

The great thing about getting older is that you don't lose all the other ages you've been. Madeleine L'Engle

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

The Better Prayer

The fewer words the better prayer.

Martin Luther

Monday, December 8, 2008

The True Atheists

Great hypocrites are the true atheists.
Francis Bacon

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Restart

Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
Henry Ford

Saturday, December 6, 2008

Making Plans

A goal without a plan is just a wish.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Thursday, December 4, 2008

The Song

The forest would be quite silent if only the most beautiful birds sang.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Fear of Laughter

God is a comedian playing to an audience too afraid to laugh.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

The Cost

Failure is the tuition you pay for success.

Walter Brunell

Monday, December 1, 2008

To Share

God does not create in order to acquire something but in order to share Himself.

Sunday, November 30, 2008

Never Forget the Lesson

Forget the times of your distress, but never forget what they taught you.

Gesser

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Not an Intricate Labyrinth

The Gateway to Christianity is not through an intricate labyrinth of dogma, but by a simple belief in the person of Christ.

William Lyon Phelps

Friday, November 28, 2008

Grace Arrives

Grace arrives, unannounced, in lives that least expect or deserve it.

Andrew Sullivan

Thursday, November 27, 2008

The Marriage Goal

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.

Robert C. Dodds

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

God's Comedy

God writes a lot of comedy... the trouble is, he's stuck with so many bad actors who don't know how to play funny.

Garrison Keillor

Monday, November 24, 2008

God's Megaphone

God whispers to us in our pleasures. speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains. It is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world.

CS Lewis

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Requirements

God doesn’t require us to be a success – only faithful.

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Suffering and Sonship

God had one son on earth without sin, but never one without suffering.

Saint Augustine

Friday, November 14, 2008

If I had only…

If I had only…
forgotten future greatness
and looked at the green things and the buildings
and reached out to those around me
and smelled the air
and ignored the forms and the self-styled obligations
and heard the rain on the roof
and put my arms around my wife
… and it's not too late.

Hugh Prather
Notes To Myself

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Turning Failure Into..

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Malcolm Forbes

Monday, October 27, 2008

Who May Learn?

Experience teaches only the teachable.
Aldous Huxley

Friday, October 24, 2008

Distance from Anger

Don’t react when someone vents anger. Pretend you are watching from a distance.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Honest Signals

An MIT professor says he can read how much nervous energy you have by hooking you up to what he calls a “sociometer”. It’s a gadget that tracks nonverbal interactions. In one experiment, Sandy Pentland used it to predicte how well business plan pitches would be received just by looking at the tone of voice used to pitch the plan. Bottom line: It’s easy to mistake charisma for content. Pentland writes about the findings in his new book Honest Signals.

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Let Today Be Today

Don’t let yesterday use up too much of today!

Monday, October 20, 2008

The Source of Failure

Do not look where you fell, but where you slipped.
African Proverb

Friday, October 17, 2008

Adding Things Up

Count your blessings, not your troubles.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

The Pie

What interests of your adversity overlap with your own? Expand the pie before you divide it.

Monday, October 13, 2008

Developing Character

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.
Hellen Keller

Friday, October 10, 2008

Your Future

The best way to predict the future is to invent it.
Alan Kay

A Person of Character shows..

Availablity

Flexibility

Teachability

Dependability

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Best Things

The best things in life aren't things.

Monday, October 6, 2008

A Barometer of Character

The best index to a person's character is (a) how he treats people who can't do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can't fight back.
Abigail Van Buren

Friday, October 3, 2008

Cruelty

Belief in a cruel God makes a cruel man.
Thomas Paine

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Qualifications

Be yourself. Who else is better qualified?
Frank J. Giblin

Friday, September 26, 2008

Anger

Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.

Aristotle

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Admitting Error

Any man worth his salt will stick up for what he believes right, but it takes a slightly better man to acknowledge instantly and without reservation that he is in error.

General Peyton March

Monday, September 22, 2008

Suffering

Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it. Helen Keller

Monday, September 15, 2008

New Horizons

Where there is passion and desire, there will always be new horizons.

Friday, September 12, 2008

Freedom and Imitation

When people are free to do as they please, they usually imitate each other.

Eric Hoffer

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Enough Religion

We have enough religion to make us hate, but not enough to make us love one another..

Jonathan Swift

Monday, September 8, 2008

Avoiding Criticism

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.
Elbert Hubbard

Friday, September 5, 2008

Little Steps

There is no giant step that does it. It’s a lot of little steps.

Peter Cohen

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Limitations

Rather than talking about your self-imposed limitations, talk about your openness to change and adaptability.

Stephen Goforth

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Does a Killer Deserve the Truth?

The Gospels tell us that Jesus was asked which commandment was greatest (Matthew 26:36-40). For him to give an answer implies there is a hierarchy of commands (and he did answer the question).

Just as not all commandments are on equal footing, not all sin should be treated as equal.* A hierarchy of commands implies a hierarchy of sin.

Slapping you is wrong but killing you is worse and deserves more condemnation. Thus, hitting falls below murder on our list of “top sins”. We recognize this in our legal system by giving harsher sentences to some murders (planned) over others (spontaneous and unplanned).

This comes into play when absolutes conflict. What do we do our options are either, for instance, lying or murder? Some people will tell you to choice the “lesser of two evils”. But is choosing evil ever acceptable? Are there situations where we have no choice but to sin?

Let’s put it in more concrete terms.

Perhaps you’ve been presented this dilemma. Let’s say you are sitting in the library, minding your own business, reading a book. Suddenly, a panting, red-faced young man runs past you. He hides behind a bookcase. Before you have time to take in the scene, another man comes charging inside the library. He looks like he’s been running as well. This second man holds a knife in his hand. You recognized his face. He’s an escaped killer who’s apparently ready to take another life. He looks you in the eye and says, “Where is he? Where is John?”

What do you say?

You should always tell the truth, right? But if you do and point out the victim’s hiding place, you would be guilty of helping the lunatic commit murder.

Would you say, “I don’t know” or “He’s not here”? Either statement is a lie. How would you justify it?

If you say nothing, wouldn’t you be guilty of withholding the truth? Wouldn’t that be wrong as well? Your silence may convey to the madman that John was indeed close and he may start looking for his victim. Wouldn’t that make you accountable as well?

The question really is, when there are moral dilemmas, that is, two absolutes that conflict (in this case, the charge not to lie comes against the charge to not murder), are these dilemmas real? And if so, what is the proper action?

If we accept there are “graded absolutes” then the choice is not the “lesser evil” but the “greater good”.

When a small child hands us a crude crayon drawing, we are not obligated in the name of truth to call it “a poor excuse for art”. There are greater “rules” that apply here. Just like when your wife asks if she looks overweight in a new dress. The brute facts may say one thing but the love in your heart will speak a “greater truth” into the situation.

(*this is not to say that all sin is equal in its consequences for any evil will separate us from our creator).

Stephen Goforth

Monday, September 1, 2008

True Humility

A poor self-image is not to be equated with humility or the mark of a servant.

Charles Swindoll

Friday, August 29, 2008

The Listener

The person who’s listening is usually the one worth listening to.

Art and Morality

Art like morality consists in drawing the line somewhere.

G.K. Chesterton

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Nice People

A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.

Dave Barry

Monday, August 25, 2008

Our Toolbox

Our Age of Anxiety is, in great part, the result of trying to do today's jobs with yesterday's tools.

Marshall McLuhan

Alleged Grammar Errors

Most of the hobgoblins of a contemporary prescriptive grammar (don’t split infinitives, don’t end a sentence with a preposition) can be traced back to eighteenth-century fads.

Of course, forcing modern speakers of English to not – whoops, not to split an infinitive because it isn’t done in Latin makes about as much sense as forcing modern residents of England to wear laurels and togas.

But once introduced, a prescriptive rule is very heard to eradicate, no matter how ridiculous. Inside the educational and writing establishments, the rules survive by the same dynamic that perpetuates ritual genital mutilations and college fraternity hazing: I had to go through it and am none the worse, so why should you have it any easier? Anyone daring to overturn a rule by example must always worry that readers will think he or she is ignorant of the rule, rather than challenging it.

Since perspective rules are so psychologically unnatural that only those with access to the right schooling can abide by them, they serve as shibboleths, differentiating the elite from the rabble.

Steven Pinker
The Language Instinct

Friday, August 22, 2008

Stretching

My own happiest times have not been when all was secure but rather when I was stretching to learn to fulfill a task which called for more than I have to give – and I was trying to give it.

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Two Things

My memory is nearly gone, but I remember two things, that I am a great sinner, and that Christ is a great Saviour.

John Newton
Author of Amazing Grace

I love this quote because it summaries the whole of Christianity. That is, know who you are and know who God is. Some people stop with the sinner part ("Oh, I'm so awful") and miss the fact that the Gospel is really "good news". We should dwell on the Savior part yet never forget the sinner part. As someone once said, salvation is a two-sided coin, an attitude toward sin (repentance) and an attitude toward God (faith). As we turn the coin (turn away from sin) we face it in God's direction. It makes all the difference in the world whether you are looking at your own failures.. or looking at God's triumph.

Monday, August 18, 2008

Animosity

Men need no other provocation to enmity than that they find themselves excelled.

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Being Ourselves

I began to see that I, and the people I know, are most winsome in all our intimate relations when we are unconsciously being ourselves with other people and accepting them just as they are without trying to manipulate or change them in any way.

Keith Miller
A Taste of New Wine

Friday, August 15, 2008

Listening

Listening is not thinking about what you are going to say when the other person has stopped talking.

H Norman Wright

Whites to Become a Minority Sooner than Expected

In just 34 years, whites will make up less than half of the US population. That’s a good eight years earlier than previously predicted. This Census Bureau finding will mean big changes for our society from schools and language to employment and politics.

I'm sure there are folks (some relatives you know) who are panicked at the very thought that white America will no longer be in the majority. It’s a comfort thing. But whether you like it or not, life is about changes. When it comes to something this big, all we can control is our reaction. Our identity, the way we think of ourselves, is always being forced to work around new circumstances. This is another reason to give our attention to what's permanent and not focus on what's passing away.

It's curious to think that the America our grandkids will grow up in will look different than the one we knew as children. But then, when you think about the world OUR grandparents grew up in - the depression era and such, it shouldn't be a shock to discover that life is taking some unexpected twists. It’s like returning to the home we grew up in and finding everything so much smaller. We shouldn’t be all that surprised.. but we are.

The change requires an adjustment on our part. And if we don't embrace that change, we'll turn out to be one of those elderly people who rail against the way the world is now and reminisce about the good old days (that never were) wasting energy and time trying to shore up our comfort level. When we shouldn't have been leaning in that direction in the first place.

Stephen Goforth

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Participating Fully

I do not serve God only in the brief moments during which I am taking part in a religious service, or reading the Bible, or saying my prayers, or talking about him in some book I am writing, or discussing the meaning of life with a patient or a friend.

I serve him quite as much when I am giving a patient an injection, or lancing an abscess, or writing a prescription, or giving a piece of good advice.

Or again, I serve him quite as much when I am reading the newspaper, traveling, laughing at a joke, or soldering a joint in an electric wire.

I serve him by taking an interest in everything, because he is interested in everything, because he has created everything and has put me in his creation so that I may participate in it fully.

“It is a great mistake,” wrote Archbishop William Temple, “to suppose that God is interested only, or even primarily in religion.”

Paul Tournier
The Adventure of Living

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Welcome to the Fairy Tale

Life itself is the most wonderful fairy tale.

Hans Christian Andersen

Monday, August 11, 2008

Inside

It’s what people know about themselves inside is what makes them afraid.

Clint Eastwood
High Plains Drifter

Friday, August 8, 2008

Discoveries

It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.

The Adventure of Living

Our attitude to life is always a reflection of our attitude to God. Saying “yes” to God is saying “yes” to life, to all its problems and difficulties. “Yes” instead of “no”, an attitude of adventure instead of one of going one strike. In such an adventure we commit our entire being. It is not an escape.. We do not have to give up our reason, our intelligence, our knowledge, our facility to judge, nor our emotions, our likes, our desire, our instincts, our conscience and unconscious aspirations, but rather to place them all in God’s hand’s, so that he may direct, stimulate, fertilize, develop and use them.

Paul Tournier
The Adventure of Living

Thursday, August 7, 2008

The Other Fellow

When the other fellow is set in his ways, he’s obstinate.
When you are, it’s just firmness.

When the other fellow doesn’t like your friends, he’s prejudiced and narrow minded.

When you don’t like his friends, you are simply showing you’re a good judge of human nature.

When the other fellow tries to treat someone especially well, he’s buttering them up.
When you do the same game, you’re using tact.

When the other fellow picks out flows in things, he’s cranky.
When you do, you are discriminating and just be careful.

When the other fellow says what he things, he’s spiteful.
When you do, you’re just plain spoken.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Be Bold

In times of stress, be bold and valiant.

Homer

Treasures

One by one He took them from me,
All the things I valued most,
Until I was empty-handed;
Every glittering toy was lost.

And I walked earth's highways, grieving.
In my rags and poverty.
Till I heard His voice inviting,
"Lift your empty hands to Me!"

So I held my hands toward heaven,
And He filled them with a store
Of His own transcendent riches,
Till they could contain no more.

And at last I comprehended
With my stupid mind and dull,
That God COULD not pour His riches
Into hands already full!

Martha Snell Nicholson

Monday, August 4, 2008

The Happy Catastrophe

A fire broke out backstage in a theater on opening night of a new comedy production. A clown realized the danger and pushed thorugh the curtains to alert the audience.

They applauded.

The clown repeated his warning more urgently. By now he was center stage, flailing his arms, his eyes wide with panic.

The crowd went wild. Whistles. Cheers. Raucous laughter. Never had they seen such a routine!

Is this how the world ends? The human race stands in thunderous ovation, calling for an encore, convinced it’s just another happy joke.

Friday, August 1, 2008

The 360 View

In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.

Leo Tolstoy

The Time Test

If a class of students are allowed an hour to complete an essay test and one student completes his before the time is up, he isn’t penalized, is he? The assignment was to write an essay, not merely to use the time.

But what if using the time were the assignment? If a person is told to use an entire day profitably, but he becomes bored and diverted by mid-morning, wasting the balance of the day, then his speed is worthless.

The same is true when life is the task. To be finished with life before life has finished with us is to have failed to complete the assignment.

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Style and Principle

In matters of style swim with the current;
In matters of principle stand like a rock.

Thomas Jefferson

Keep Going

If you're going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill

$3 worth of God

I would like to buy $3 worth of God, please.

Not enough to explode my soul or disturb my sleep, but just enough to equal a cup of warm milk or a snooze in the sunshine. I don't want enough of him to make me love a foreigner or pick beets with a migrant worker. I want ecstasy, not transformation; I want the warmth of a womb, not a new birth. I want a pound of the Eternal in a paper sack.

I'd like to buy $3 worth of God, please.


Wilbur Rees

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Barking Dogs

If you stop every time a dog barks, your road will never end.

Arabian Proverb

Monday, July 28, 2008

What We Could Become

The important thing is this:
To be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are
for what we could become.

Charles Dubois

Friday, July 25, 2008

Confusion

If you cannot convince them, confuse them.

Harry S Truman

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Books and Intellect

If we encounter a man of rare intellect, we should ask him what books he reads.


Ralph Waldo Emerson

Monday, July 21, 2008

Moldy Bread

If they can make penicillin out of moldy bread, they can sure make something out of you.

Muhammad Ali

Friday, July 18, 2008

Pooh Wisdom

If the person you are talking to doesn't appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in his ear.

Winnie the Pooh

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Possibility

If I were to wish for anything. I should not wish for wealth and power. But for the passionate sense of the potential. And what wine is so sparkling.. what so fragrant.. what so intoxicating.. as possibility!

Soren Kierkegaard

Monday, July 14, 2008

That Little Point

If I profess with the loudest voice and clearest exposition every portion of the truth of God except precisely that little point which the world and the devil are at that moment attacking, I am not confessing Christ, however boldly I may be professing Christ.

Martin Luther

Friday, July 11, 2008

If There is no God

If God does not exist, then everything is permitted.
Fyodor Dostoevsky

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Telling the Truth

I never did give anybody hell. I just told the truth and they thought it was hell.

Harry S Truman

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

The One-Way Street

I learned ... that one can never go back, that one should not ever try to go back - that the essence of life is going forward. Life is really a one-way street, isn't it?

Agatha Christie

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Bearing Your Cross

He sends a cross, but He also sends the strength to bear it.
Leo Tolstoy

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Greener Grass

The grass is always greener wherever you water it.
- Anonymous

Monday, June 30, 2008

Love and Boundaries

Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them. Once the precious moment of falling in love has passed and the boundaries have snapped back in place, the individual is disillusioned. Real love (the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth) is a permanently self enlarging experience. Falling in love is not.

M Scott Peck
The Road Less Traveled

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Be Still

"Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth." The LORD Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress. – Psalm 46:10,11

What does it mean to “be still”?

Given what the Psalmists says about observing the world around us in this chapter, it’s not just knowing God through sitting still or reading the Bible. When you are floating down a beautiful river in a canoe and the scenery takes your breath away, you are “knowing God”. Recognize Him in that moment. Know him through his Word, through his people, through the world he created. Listen for his voice. Be still. Don’t let life’s sirens and urgencies crowd God out of your life.

Stephen Goforth

Friday, June 27, 2008

Your Dreams

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Simple Solutions

For every complex problem, there is a solution that is simple, neat, and wrong. - H. L. Mencken

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Bawdy Humor

The truth is humans are pretty clearly divided on (the matter of indecent or bawdy humour) into two classes. There are some to whom "no passion is as serious as lust' and for whom an indecent story ceases to produce lasciviousness precisely in so far as it becomes funny: there are others in whom laughter and lust are excited at the same moment and by the same things. The first sort joke about sex because it gives rise to many incongruities: the second cultivate incongruities because they afford a pretext for talking about sex. If your man is of the first type, bawdy humour will not help you — I shall never forget the hours which I wasted (hours to me of unbearable tedium) with one with one of my early patients in bars and smoking-rooms before I learned this rule.

A thousand bawdy, or even blasphemous, jokes do not help towards a man's damnation so much as his discovery that almost anything he wants to do can be done, not only without the disapproval but with the admiration of his fellows, if only it can get itself treated as a Joke.

CS Lewis
Screwtape Letters

Monday, June 23, 2008

Doing Good

Do all the good you can,
by all the means you can,
in all the ways you can,
in all the places you can,
at all the times you can,
to all the people you can,
as long as ever you can.

John Wesley

Friday, June 20, 2008

How to Live

Few study religion to learn how to live – many search it for justification for the way they already live.

Meaningful Art

Art exists within a framework. And however we choose to define it, the boundaries will move a bit, this way or that, depending on the generation and culture in which we live. There is always a context that impacts the particular place we draw the circle around “art”.

It’s also helpful distinguishing between “pleasure artists” and “critical” artists. The later, working in the context of other’s expectations. The former laboring from their own.

One tiddlywinks player knows how the game has been used by others (its history, nuances, performance art uses, etc) while another may be ignorant of all or part of these going’s on.

Let’s say our player nows bits and pieces of the context - but doesn’t care. Is his work meaningless because it doesn’t fit within the system? Or is it the whole system that is meaningless, because, after all, it IS tiddlywinks. Or (a third possibility) would be that it is of value solely, and for no other reason, than it gives him pleasure and the satisfaction of feeling that he has accomplished something?

And I suppose that’s the real question: Does he really accomplish something just because he “feels” like he does? With no other confirmations attesting to that fact? Is his feeling of satisfaction justified?

We’ve all had the sense of satisfaction that comes from skipping a rock across the water a certain number of times. Is that a false and phony notion? Are we justified in turning to the child, who reaches her “skipping goal” and saying to her, “Way to go!” as if the child has accomplished something worthwhile? Should we treat the act as pointless? Or is its value in the fact that it can serve to symbolize to the child how she may succeed at “real” goals and purposes later in life? Is it just a confidence builder?

It reminds me of the old story about the artist who took extra care with his work at the top of a church steeple. He was questioned about the value of doing this when no one would see it. “God will see it” is supposed to have been his reply. If we nod our heads to this tale, agreeing there is some truth to it, then why not say the same for our tiddlywinks player? And our rock skipper? If God takes pleasure in unseen spirals, then why not unrecognized (not part of the system) games and odd skills? Since the individual involved takes pleasure performing them?

The guilt-driven part of me wants to say, “The tiddlywinks man should be out helping orphans and widows instead of wasting time!” But if we follow that reasoning out, I think we wind up giving up art and any other activity that doesn’t fit into the lowest ranking of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

Who are we to tell the artist he’s wasting his time, because he doesn’t attempt to fit into the system of social rewards that we’ve decided to invest in ourselves? We stomp our foot and complain, “How dare he not play OUR game!” Are we actually concerned about him and his time? Or are we really just defending our own investment, acting out of the fear that we may have (partly) wasted our own time and energy?

I’m reminded of Eric Liddle who’s story is told in “Chariots of Fire”. He said, “When I run, I feel His pleasure.” Is this a worthy response, only when the speaker has an Olympic medal handing on his chest? Or it is just as true, when our impassioned runner is slow, awkward and has no audience or purpose? Not even “getting into shape”?

So, at the moment I think I have left myself without much ground for looking down on others for creating, what is in my mind “pointless dribble”. But I’m sure I’m still morally superior, of course. I’m just not sure why.

Stephen Goforth

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

One Act

Every day should be distinguished by one particular act of love

Monday, June 16, 2008

At the Start

Every artist was first an amateur. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Friday, June 13, 2008

Carpe diem!

Carpe diem! Rejoice while you are alive; enjoy the day; live life to the fullest; make the most of what you have. It is later than you think. – Homer

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Teaching

Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught. – Oscar Wilde

Monday, June 9, 2008

What Makes You Come Alive!

Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

Sunday, June 8, 2008

Why We Lie

A life of total dedication to the truth means.. a life of total honesty. It means a continuous and never-ending process of self-monitoring to assure that our communications – not only the words that we say but also the way we say them-invariably reflect as accurately as humanly possible the truth or reality as we know it. Such honesty does not come painlessly. The reason people lie is to avoid the pain of challenge and its consequences.

M Scott Peck
The Road Less Traveled

Saturday, June 7, 2008

A Peaceful Mind

Frequently, I find that people who are lacking in inner peace are victims of a self-punishment mechanism. At some time in their experience, they have committed a sin and the sense of guilt haunts them. They have sincerely sought Divine forgiveness, and the good Lord will always forgive anyone who asks Him and who means it. However, there is a curious quirk within the human mind whereby sometimes an individual will not forgive himself.

He feels that he deserves punishment and therefore is constantly anticipating that punishment. As a result he live in a constant apprehension that something is going to happen. In order to find peace under these circumstances, he must increase the intensity of this activity. He feels that hard work will give him some release from his sense of guilt… Peace of mind under such circumstances is available by yielding the guilt as well as the tension it produces to the healing therapy of Christ.

Norman Vincent Peale
The Power of Positive Thinking

Friday, June 6, 2008

Loving Your Neighbor

Do not waste time bothering with whether you “love” your neighbor; act as if you do.

CS Lewis

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Encouragment

We appreciate what a person does, but we affirm who a person is. Appreciation comes and goes because it is usually related to something someone accomplishes. Affirmation goes deeper. It is directed to the person himself or herself. While encouragement would encompass both, the rarer of the two is affirmation. To be appreciated, we get the distinct impression that we must earn it by some accomplishment. But affirmation requires no such prerequisite. This mean that even when we don’t earn the right to be appreciated (because we failed to succeed or because we lacked the accomplishment of some goal), we can still be affirmed – indeed, we need it then more than ever. I do not care how influential or secure or mature a person may appear to be, genuine encouragement never fails to help. Most of us need massive doses as we slug it out in the trenches.

Charles Swindoll
Strengthening Your Grip

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Jesus Chose the Gritty

The Scriptures are filled with the ruggedness and struggles of actual life. But in our teaching of the gospel we have sweetened or repressed the universal human qualities of our Lord’s stories almost beyond recognition. Jesus evidentially talked about the things like people’s sexual escapades and crooked business deals to illustrate his message about the reign of God. And he furnished additional wine for at least on celebration. Read the parables. With the whole of human behavior from which to select, Jesus chose the gritty, earthy areas of life to illustrate the way God loves people. He was real! He expressed his own uncertainly and doubt in the midst of his faith. And he got very angry. Jesus talked about the same deep separation , dishonest and inner restlessness we experience in modern life. I had always heard the church saying the God prefers the poor, the despised, and the weak… Religious people have difficulty admitting that (Jesus) prefers sinners to the righteous. Those who call themselves righteous are not free from it but have repressed it. Those called sinners are aware of their guilt and are, for that reason, ready to receive pardon and grace.

Keith Miller
The Becomers

Monday, June 2, 2008

The Unlived

Destructiveness is the outcome of an unlived life.

Eric Fromm

Thursday, May 29, 2008

Let People Know

Deep within us-no matter who we are-there lives a feeling of wanting to be lovable, of wanting to be the kind of person that others like to be with. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved and capable of loving.

Fred Rogers (Mister Rogers)

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Child at Play

The day we stop playing is the day we stop learning.

William Glasser

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Questioning Everything

"The path to holiness lies through questioning everything." - M Scott Peck in The Road Less Traveled

Calling the goal "holiness" implies a religious bent. But you could substitute maturity, enlightenment, knowledge, whatever you like in that direction and you still have the same idea. So, substitute a word here or there and hang on to the concept.

I've had more than one Christian friend write me, upset that I have used this quote. They believe Christianity is all about faith, not reason. And questioning it implies you expect it to eventually be disproved.

I think they use the wrong definition of faith in this case. Rather than believing something that's difficult to accept (or absurd, as Christian existentialism would

suggest), I would use the world faith in terms of active trust.

I believe the chair will hold me up. But until I sit in it, I haven't shown faith in the chair. When I commit my body to it, taking the chance I might fall on my fanny, that’s when I exercise faith.

Faith is not necessarily unreasonable; it depends on the object in which we place our faith. And questioning ideas, doesn't mean you expect them to be proved false. It's like the night watchman checking doors. He's testing, not because he wants to find a door unlocked, but instead to prove (hopefully) the doors ARE locked.

If Christianity (or any other belief system) is objectively true, there is no need to hide away from reality. It will show itself for what it is in the light of day.

We can gladly question our assumptions about life and test our theories in the crucible of living, knowing we will only be drawn closer to "what is" if we follow truth. And (as Peck says in The Road Less Traveled), your mental health can be measured by your commitment to reality at all costs.

So, let's be skeptical. But not with the goal of seeing all theories, philosophies and religions fall under the microscope of reason. Instead, let's happily question life. And no matter how sentimental it may sound to the philosopher who feels superior because he is always searching and never finding - let's question because we DO seek the goal of truth and are happy to find it in little nuggets here and there along the way in all sorts of odd and interesting places.

Stephen Goforth

Monday, May 26, 2008

Cry, Laugh, Drink

Cry bitterly. Laugh Loudly. Drink Deeply.

Saturday, May 24, 2008

The Challenge

"Are you doing what you want to do in your life? Or are you just blowing through? I'm challenging your life right now. What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Would you take a trip around the world? Run a company? If you're not doing what you want, that's where I want you to go. This week is about you doing what you want to do for every week of the rest of your life."

Bill Watkins, head of Seagate Technology speaking to employees before the company’s annual (and grueling!) team-building event in New Zealand as told by Fortune Magazine

Friday, May 23, 2008

Change

Be the change you wish to see in the world

Gandhi

The Pain and Pleasure Schedule

Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over iwht. It is the only decent way to live.

M Scott Peck
The Road Less Traveled

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

The Art of Love

The art of love ... is largely the art of persistence
Albert Ellis

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Slower but Wiser

If your mind doesn't seem as nimble as was at one time, it could be that you are just taking longer to process the information because you have more experiences to cross-reference it with. It’s not that your brain is sluggish, you’re probably just a bit wiser. That’s the conclusion of a set of aging studies. They are analyzed in the latest edition of the journal Progress in Brain Research. The New York Times explains more of what’s in the neurology book in this article.

Stephen Goforth

Monday, May 19, 2008

A World of Suffering

Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it. – Helen Keller

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Right vs Left Brain?

Which direction does the dancer spin?

Friday, May 16, 2008

Shields: The Best Advice I Ever Got

I go back to things my dad said: "Your career is long and the business world is small. Always act with integrity. Never take the last dollar off the table." In my dealings to sell Bebo [to AOL], this advice was critical. You can always do a slightly better deal, but that incremental dollar or windfall is not worth creating an imbalance that affects the relationship. You have to have the intuition to know when to say, "I'm going to make sure that we walk away feeling like we've both done well."
- Joanna Shields, president of Bebo.com in an interview with Forbes Magazine

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Lampert: The Best Advice I Ever Got

"Almost every weekend when I was 7, 8, 9, 10 years old, my father and I would toss a football in the yard or play basketball in the driveway. When we played football, he'd say, "Go out ten steps. Turn to your right." The ball would reach me just before I turned, and it would hit me right in the chest. Why would my dad do this? He told me, "If I waited for you to turn, you and the defensive player would have an equal chance to get the ball. Your opportunity is gone."

This idea of anticipation is key to investing and to business generally. You can't wait for an opportunity to become obvious. You have to think, "Here's what other people and companies have done under certain circumstances. Now, under these new circumstances, how is this management likely to behave?" The plays my father designed for me helped me learn to think ahead." - Eddie Lampert, Chairman and CEO, ESL Investments & Chairman, Sears Holdings in an interview with Forbes Magazine

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Simple Faith

I'll take the uneducated and inarticulate person who is living a faith-filled life over someone who can use words to soar to the heights - but misses the everyday opportunities to reveal God.

I think of my step-grandmother. When I was a kid, visiting for the weekend, my friend from next door asked me to come over to his place. I turned him down so I could sit with my step-grandmother on the porch while she knitted. She told me I didn't have to stay and keep her company. I could go play with my friend. But I didn’t want to do that.. and I didn’t know why. Later, I figured out the reason. She had been talking about the beauty of God's world and spoke to me as if what I thought really mattered. Her simple faith had stirred a desire to hang around and hear more.

In heaven, Billy Graham and the like, will have to take a back seat to the single mother scrubbing floors to support her children. She'll get the pat on the back, not because she never doubted or cried her heart out but because when it came down to it, she loved and trusted God in little ways every day and just lived out what she believed. It’s much easy to be holy when you have big crowd in front of you to impress. But what about when no one is looking?

Palmisano: The Best Advice I Ever Got

"Some of the best advice I ever received was unspoken. Over the course of my IBM career I've observed many CEOs, heads of state, and others in positions of great authority. I've noticed that some of the most effective leaders don't make themselves the center of attention. They are respectful. They listen. This is an appealing personal quality, but it's also an effective leadership attribute. Their selflessness makes the people around them comfortable. People open up, speak up, contribute. They give those leaders their very best. When it comes to specific advice, the best was from a former boss, who told me, "Don't view your career as a linear progression." He advised me to take horizontal rather than vertical steps: to try out situations that are unstructured, to learn different ways of working, and to get outside of headquarters and experience different cultures." - Sam Palmisano, chairman and CEO of IBM in Forbes Magazine

You Never Know..

You never know when you're making a memory.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

your slightest look

your slightest look

easily will enclose me

though i have

closed myself as fingers,

you open

always petal by petal

myself as spring

opens

(touching skillfully, mysteriously)

her first rose.

ee cummings

Bloomberg: The Best Advice I ever Got

"First, always ask for the order, and second, when the customer says yes, stop talking. I have watched more people make great presentations, whether they're trying to sell to their family or in business or in government, and never get to the point of what they're trying to get out of it. And too many times when the customer says yes, the person who got that answer just doesn't stop talking. Worst advice? The worst advice that people can take is to react before they've had a chance to think. I think we all say things and wish we hadn't said them. Ready, shoot, aim is not the smartest policy." - Michael Bloomberg, Mayor of New York City, founder of Bloomberg LP in Forbes Magazine

Monday, May 12, 2008

What you Must Do

You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Chains

We forge the chains we wear in life.
Charles Dickens

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Questions and Answers

Albert Einstein once said, “The important thing is not to stop questioning.”

A friend who heard this wrote to me asking, “Why? Why? Why?????????”

I think Einstein was assuming there were answers to be found.. as opposed to people (some of them I bumped into while studying philosophy) who dare not find any answers because what appealed to them was the "search" for truth/answers/reasons. Finding answers would mean move from aggressive critics to defending a particular viewpoint. Not as much fun. This is similar to romantic love that enjoys the chase, but is quickly bored (or frustrated) with the catch.

We show (by our choices) whether we ask questions because we really want answers.. or whether we draw pleasure from shouting question marks at the world and take comfort from the echo of our own voice.

Stephen Goforth

Friday, May 2, 2008

Small Beginnings

Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises.
Demostenes

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Exploring Life

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.
Marcel Proust

Monday, April 28, 2008

Victimhood, part one

“Glorying in victimhood” is a favorite course for people who’ve been hurt in relationships (especially those who are divorced). When someone has been wronged (and wronged many times) it is easy to keep seeing life through those pain-filled moments. It’s easy to “define” yourself in those terms.. relating all that goes on to those dreadful events. Instead of moving on and putting it behind, your past pain becomes an excuse for not taking responsibly today.. and a way to gain sympathy from others. When you meet new people, you find yourself quickly working into the conversation an “explanation” what happened. You want others to see you in that light. You want that shadow from the past to fall over your face whenever they look at you. How much better it is to let them get to know the person you are today! It’s risky but help to break the chains of victimhood.

Stephen Goforth

Sunday, April 27, 2008

The Storms of Life

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain.

Friday, April 25, 2008

Choosing to Come Alive.. or Surrender

The longer we continue to make the wrong decisions, the more our heart hardens; the more often we make the right decision, the more our heart softens - or better perhaps, comes alive.

Each step in life which increases my self-confidence, my integrity, my courage, my conviction also increases my capacity to choose the desirable alternative, until eventually it becomes more difficult for me to choose the undesirable rather than the desirable action.

On the other hand, each act of surrender and cowardice weakens me, opens the path for more acts of surrender, and eventually freedom is lost. With each step along the wrong road it becomes increasingly difficult for them to admit that they are on the wrong road, often only because they have to admit that they must go back to the first wrong turn, and must accept the fact that they have wasted energy and time.

Eric Fromm
The Heart of Man: Its Genius for Good an Evil

Opportunities

A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.
Harry Truman

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Follow the Light

Keep your face to the sunshine..
and you cannot see the shadows.

Monday, April 21, 2008

Fondly Thinking Ahead

Optimists are nostalgic about the future.

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

When I Run

I believe God made me for a purpose.. and when I run I feel His pleasure.
Eric Liddell

Sunday, April 13, 2008

Catching Wind

Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they've got a second.

Thursday, April 10, 2008

On the Move

I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing.

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Step into Spring

An optimist is the human personification of spring.
Susan J. Bissonette

Monday, April 7, 2008

Drama and Petty Things

Life is too short for drama and petty things.
So KISS slowly;
LAUGH insanely;
LOVE truly;
And FORGIVE quickly!

Sunday, April 6, 2008

A Stroke of Insight

The annual TED (Technology Entertainment Design) conference costs $6k to attend. But you don't have the pay to see some of the remarkable presentations at the gathering tagged "ideas worth spreading". They are posted online. You might start with Neuroanatomist Jill Bolte Taylor's remarkable account of her stroke. While I would not fully embrace her interpretation of the event, there's nothing like coming completely unraveled to make you rethink who you are and why you are here.

Stephen Goforth

Friday, April 4, 2008

Breathing

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breathe away.

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

A Brash Shuffle

My optimism wears heavy boots and is loud.

Henry Rollins

Monday, March 31, 2008

Walking on Clouds

A pessimist sees only the dark side of the clouds, and mopes;
a philosopher sees both sides, and shrugs;
an optimist doesn't see the clouds at all. He's walking on them.
Leonard Louis Levinson

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Warren's Wisdom

An annual report to investors is supposed to be dusty collection of numbers and indecipherable corporate speak. But pick up Warren Buffett’s recently released dispatch on Berkshire Hathaway and you'll find these bits of homespun wisdom from the self-made billionaire investor:


You only learn who has been swimming naked when the tide goes out.

It’s better to have a part interest in the Hope Diamond then to own all of a rhinestone.

There’s no rule that you have to invest money where you’ve earned it. Indeed, it’s often a mistake to do so.

The worst sort of business is one that grows rapidly, requires significant capital to engender the growth, and then earns little or no money. Think airlines. Here is a durable competitive advantage has proven elusive ever since the days of the Wright Brothers. If a farsighted capitalist had been present at Kitty Hawk, he would have done his successors a huge favor by shooting Orville down.


(Commenting on his own investment blunders) If his I.Q. was any lower, you would have to water him twice a day.

A line from Bobby Bare’s country song explains what too often happens with acquisitions: "I’ve never gone to bed with an ugly woman, but I’ve sure woke up with a few.”

I should emphasize that we do not measure the progress of our investments by what their market prices do during any given year. Rather, we evaluate their performance by the two methods we apply to the businesses we own. The first test is improvement in earnings, with our making due allowance for industry conditions. The second test, more subjective, is whether their “moats” – a metaphor for the superiorities they possess that make life difficult for their competitors – have widened during the year.

We are always ready to trade increased volatility in reported earnings in the short run for greater gains in net worth in the long run. If a business requires a superstar to produce great results, the business itself cannot be deemed great. A medical partnership led by the your area’s premier brain surgeon may enjoy outsized and growing earnings, but that tells little about its future. The partnership’s moat will go when the surgeon goes. You can count, though, on the moat of the Mayo Clinic to endure, even though you can’t name its CEO.