Victimhood, part one

“Glorying in victimhood” is a favorite course for people who’ve been hurt in relationships (especially those who are divorced). When someone has been wronged (and wronged many times) it is easy to keep seeing life through those pain-filled moments. It’s easy to “define” yourself in those terms.. relating all that goes on to those dreadful events. Instead of moving on and putting it behind, your past pain becomes an excuse for not taking responsibly today.. and a way to gain sympathy from others. When you meet new people, you find yourself quickly working into the conversation an “explanation” what happened. You want others to see you in that light. You want that shadow from the past to fall over your face whenever they look at you. How much better it is to let them get to know the person you are today! It’s risky but help to break the chains of victimhood.

Stephen Goforth